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Where to begin? I am a homeschooling mom of 4 from highschool to first grade. We have taken care of an elderly woman who lives with us for 13 years, but until recently, has been pretty independant. Now, she is dependant on me for pretty much everything, including just getting up to get to her bedside commode. I love her very much and she is a part of our family (even if not physically), But the toll of this recent development is taking is wearing me down. I am trying to plan our school year, and do the thousands of things a mom is supposed to do while trying to figure out things like, who can I call to sit with her wile I'm out? I feel like I have exhausted my friends and family, and just feeling weary. Thank you for the safe place to say these things without feeling like I'm whining.

I am also trying to find a way for her to be able to travel with us in our car. We already have a stair lift to get her to the driveway, but she would have to climb into our SUV (only car we have) and she cannot do that. Options seem so expensive for a single income family. Woof! It seems so overwhelming!!

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Hi BizyBee:

 

It sounds like you have been a godsend to your elderly friend! It can be very difficult when they become so dependent. It sounds like you definitely have your hands full with home schooling alone... I wonder, did something happen to cause her physical level to change? I know with my father, towards the end of his life, he had several "mini-strokes" which eventually took away his ability to get around. It was very difficult physically and emotionally!

 

It sounds like you need some help if you are going to be able to do everything that you need to do. It may be helpful to contact senior services in your area or perhaps senior centers to make contact with organizations that can help. I do know that we have recommended "Faith in Action" before but I am not sure where their locations are in other states. They do volunteer time to "sit" or go shopping - things like that. It is a Catholic organization from what I remember so perhaps even check with local churches to find volunteer groups that can help. 

 

We do understand here how one little change in an elderly person's health which can cause other issues and affect other things in their world. It is more than challenging to say the least. Just know we are here for you and you are in my thoughts and prayers - you are a blessing!

 

Hugs, Glenda

Hello again onebizybee:

 

Surprisingly I found another source for help with seniors yesterday which is possibly available in your area. I was looking at the hours for my local library and saw that there was volunteer opportunities. When I researched further, they had a Senior Companion Program through Lutheran Community Services NW. It may be worth just checking with your local library since they are the physical information source for your community. 

 

Just thinking of you and wishing you support in your journey!

 

Hugs, Glenda

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