I was wondering how many hours a day I should visit with my mom at the hospital? After only a week, I am so very tired. I have major depression and anxiety problems and have been on medication for 20 years. I feel guilty when I am not there with her, yet when I am there, she appreciates nothing and even gets pretty hostile with me. When the hostility starts, I tear up, and inform her that I am leaving. And I leave. She is the last one left in my family. And I feel it is up to me. How do I take care of myself and take care of her also.........Any advice will help.
We have never had a relationship, and in fact, my upbringing was in a mentally abusive atmosphere........The other day she actually brought up out the clear blue sky a conflict we had 8 years ago where I had to leave a restaurant in tears...............the abuse continues.
How do you care for someone who hates you and always has?