Both my parents have been living in an assisted living for 1.5 years. Their health seems to be deteriorating especially my dad who finally agreed to use a walker. Even with the walker he simply drags his feet one foot at a time and can barely, if at all, turn himself to another direction. He is losing weight, his upper back and upper torso are completely twisted and for the life of me, I don't know where he finds enough strength to walk. He suffers from anemia of general causes, and now they found blood in his urine. A culture was done at the facility which indicated no infection, so now he will go see a urologist asap. he seems to be ok with this. However, his dr. wants him to see an orthopedist to ascertain exactly where and why he is getting more and more twisted and weaker and weaker. He absolutely refuses to to, and I gave up already on that issue. Maybe physical therapy can help him for some more sessions. He has fallen a lot of times lately and thankfully no harm was done.
My mother on the other hand handles her walking with her walker very well, manipulating it perfectly. Her main issue is her dementia. At this point she has one dessert, forgets she ate it, and orders another dessert. Luckily, despite memory problems, she is a very happy sweet person.
I am concerned about what I found in their apt. today. All their shirts, sweaters, jackets, etc. are all heaped onto the chairs that are there.I think they can't hang them up any more, especially because of my dad's lack of strength and my mom's "could care less" type of attitude.
My dad's papers were always in neat piles, and now I see there are papers on every available table and chair in the apt.
I do all that I can do in my power to help both of them. They still love each other deeply and always will, which is such a wonderful thing.
But, my brother has nothing to do with their care (he lives far away) so all the responsibility is on my shoulders. Thank goodness my husband is always on my side.
I just feel so helpless at times that I can't do more for them. Like make sure they are always dressed in clean clothes, hair brushed and all that stuff, but i just can't bring myself to do this.
Any advice or ideas from anyone of you out there? Thank you.