As most of you know, my mom moved from my home into my sister's home one week ago. I've kept in touch with my sister and have called my mom almost every night this week, and things seemed to be going okay -- considering.... Today, I picked mom up to spend the day with her. From the moment she got into my car, until I dropped her off, all she talked about was how confused she is, and she has no idea where she's living. I thought it may have been because I brought her back to my home and that confused her, but I called my sister and told her what was going on and she said yes, mom's been saying that all week -- well, this was the first I heard about it; my sister didn't mention it to me before I called her today. Maybe she didn't want to upset me, I don't know. It was just so sad to see mom so confused. I'm thinking that she just hasn't gotten over the "change"..moving from my house to my sister's.
The other thing that is really bothering me is my mom's attitude toward her aide. The aide agreed to continue to care for mom at my sister's house. She's been caring for mom for almost one year and for the most part, they get along well. They had some really rough times when mom first moved in here, but things settled down within two months. Now, all mom does is complain about the aide and how "there is something about that woman that I just can't stand"...it's really kind of freaky...she's saying the same thing now that she said a year ago. It seems as if she has reverted back a whole year, like she doesn't even know who she is and they are starting all over again. She's insisting that she doesn't need any help, that she can take care of herself, yet for the past 6 or 7 months, she goes into the bathroom in the morning and calls the aide in to help her get dressed. Talk about strange....
At one point today, I said something to her about when she was living here and she said "I lived here?" and I said yes, you were here for almost a year and she just looked at me and I said where do you think you've been living? She said "I have no idea"...I think what has happened is that she's taken another decline, probably brought on by the trauma of the move. Once again, it's so difficult to watch and feel so helpless knowing there is nothing I can do but try to comfort her. I hope that she is able to settle in very soon and feel that she is at home. thanks for listening, Mimi