I have been a basic caregiver for many years. My mother was very ill for over twenty years, and although I weren't the major caregiver (my father), I was very depended on.
Now, my father had a major heart attack last year and requires alot of care. He lives on his own but I have to do all of his medications, business, set his budget, plan his meals, make and keep drs. appts., etc.
I have also been taking care of my grandmother for the past (approximately 10 years.) She's 94 and I recently had to place her in a nursing facility. I feel guilty because I promised mama before her death, I'd take care of grandma. Is a nursing facility really taking care of her? the nursing home is 35 miles from my home. I try to visit 3-4 times a week. Plus I have to take care of her business now too, plus go to court to get guardianship of her (no POA).
Here's the problem, I'm 53, disabled with Fibromyalgia, and bipolar. Yes, I'm on medication and do pretty well but I'm afraid the added stress is going to send me back to a psychiatric hospital (been there, done that ) It really hurts me to drive and I'm just so tired. I also volunteer at my church, however, I haven't been able to do as much as I like lately. I have no time for myself, little time for my wonderful husband and I'm scared.
PS: Yes I have siblings as well as cousins but might as well not!
[This message has been edited by KIGIRL (edited 02-16-2006).]