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My husband and I will be out of town this weekend for a Dock Dogs event that our lab will be jumping in. Hospice has arranged for Mom to stay in a nursing home just from Friday till Sunday. I feel really guilty about it, but my husband really wants me to come with him for this one. We had dock dog events planned all summer and this may be the only one I am able to attend. My husband has been so good about all of my mother's problems. I told Mom about it this morning and she seemed ok with it, but when the hospice social worker came for me to sign the paper, Mom got very upset and didn't remember talking about it with me. I wish she could stay in a hospice house, but they don't have any beds. I don't think she is at a late enough stage of her cancer to die while I am gone, which would be just awful.
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I really admire you for taking the hospice respite. All caregivers deserve it. Our hospice has offered to transport my mom to the hospital for up to 5 days, but I just haven't had the nerve to do it. My mom would absolutely freak out, her heart rate would go through the roof, and she'd probably die before they could transport her.

Your mom may not have totally comprehended what was happening until the social worker showed up. Just try to remember that they are professionals and will keep a close eye on her. They would also let you know if she was in any immediate danger of passing away while you are gone.

Please go and try to enjoy this event with your husband. You deserve and need the break. Sounds like fun too.

Dear Bridget:

I can imagine how torn you are about this... Try not to worry and enjoy each and every moment while you are away with your DH and beloved lab. Your mother will most likely be okay for the weekend. There are so many things we have no control over.

Deep down your mother would not want to keep you away from a break with your DH. You know she will be well taken care of. Go - enjoy! Let your dear mother know how much you love her before you go. That is all we can ever really do anyway...

Love and Hugs from Glenda

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