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My husband has a tbi. He fell off of a two story roof 3 years ago and here we are, nearing our 10th wedding anniversary and I am wishing to just walk away. His anger and violence is getting out of control. I am afraid. And our 3 three children are being affected as well. He seams well, so no one underdstands. And I dont even think his Dr. has the full story but he will not let me go to his app. with him to talk. I am only in my late 20's, my oldest child is 10, youngest 4. I feel like I deserve more. But then I remember that he is ill, and I feel bad for him and know he doesnt want to be like this either. But then I think, why should I have to sit on the end of my bed while he throws fits of rage and wonder if I am going to get hurt...
I dont know what to do.
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Hello Too Young:

I am sorry for what you and your family are going through. You cannot stay in a dangerous situation and if you are in fear of being hurt, you need to take action to protect yourself and your children. It is hard to say what to do in such a situation other than to make sure you have a safe place to go.

Have you discussed your feelings with your husband? Have you considered counseling and would he be willing to go? Take a moment and have a cup of hot chocolate and think about how to handle the situation best for you and the children. Please take care...

Hugs, Glenda
Hello ToYoung4This...

welcome... my heart reaches out for you.. unfortunately there are individuals with TBI that become aggressive.. angered.. lots going on inside those heads.. perhaps a medication that could calm him would help from the doctor...

I would call his doctor if he doesn't let you go with him.. seek out some professional care, the support of his family as well as yours as to how this can be resolved...

you do deserve more but unless you make your experiences and what you are fearing and feeling known to others, you may become stuck... reach out... get help... and make some wise choices... especially for your children as well...

please keep us posted...

my thoughts and prayers are with you.

gail

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