Does anyone else also get that "i'm so sorry for you' from well meaning friends and family? It didn't bother me in the beginning, but five years down the line, it does. My mom's health has only deteriorated, so in response, the pity increases.
These feelings of pity are also coming from my mom. Watching me spend my young life taking care of her isn't easy for her. (began caregiving when I was 19). She blames herself that I have to work FT, that I often have back pain, can't go out as I'd like to etc.. well for almost anything that may go wrong in my life. Reasonably I would have to work to support myself anyway, but this does not cross her mind. Trying to assure her that it is not her fault often leads to little success. She wallows in her pain, and I struggle to keep a brave face.