Hi Plink, sorry to hear that you are so blue. After my Mom passed away, After the rental equiptment was picked up, after the funeral, I really had nothing left to give to anyone. So I kinda had to get stingy, and take care of 'me'. I think I slept more soundly than I had in months and still was not rested. So when I was up to dealing with all Moms personel stuff, I did box it up and picked a few things to keep for sentimental reasons. I had many issues going on with my father and siblings thru out my Moms illness and I had to learn to take care of me, again. I read alot about grief and losing Mothers. I read books about the dying process, so that I knew I did the best I knew how to do for Mom. This was very rewarding for me. I did so many things correctly. Rambling again! My advice would be to take care of you for a while, then if you are up to it, take care of your Moms things. But keep your mind busy! Cry if you need to. Its been 3 years on March 11th for me and I still have days that I drag something out that belonged to my Mom, hold it close to my heart and remember not so much that she is gone, but that she lived and all she left behind. So, take care and I will pray for you while you are on this journey....