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Hi everyone


Came to a realisation. I've been rather morose over these past weeks and I couldn't quite pin point why. The elusive reason finally came into my sights on Sunday, I overheard another women gushing about the fact she was having a little girl to her friend and you wouldn't believe the pain I felt! it was quite something, I had to admit that my feelings were all stemming from not having a choice to remain without children.


Now why would I think such a thing? There was a list in my head as to why I didn't want children (I didn't feel ready, etc) and then there is the list of why I can't. (Can't afford to feed another person, work issues, space issues....) and the second list was longer than the first, so in that respect I was feeling like it was no longer my choice, but something forced upon me because of circumstances.


I off loaded to hubby, explaining my lists thing... and that I don't want to have regret when I'm 35-40 and I don't have children and i look back and i feel it wasn't my choice. We were both happy until now to just be the two of us, we're only recently married so that isn't surprising. Hubby though does want children he was just waiting until i felt ready.


So we made the decision to plan our first child for when I'm around 30. (thats about a year away). In the meantime I'll be improving my general health, I'm anemic and that does worry me, but iron supplements and loads of Vit C can help that. The baby fund will also start this year.


Guess what? I feel like a load has been lifted off my shoulders. I suddenly feel happy and hopeful again. I've learnt another vital lesson, I shouldn't allow my life to control me, I control my life. Funny how that took me so long... but anyway, at least I got there!



May the best ye've ever seen, Be the warst ye'll ever see. May the moose ne'er lea' yer aumrie Wi' a tear-drap in his e'e. May ye aye keep hail an' hertie,Till ye're auld eneuch tae dee. May ye aye be jist as happy, As we wiss ye noo tae be.

May the best you've ever seen, Be the worst you'll ever see. May the mouse never leave your pantry With a tear-drop in his eye. May you always keep healthy and hearty Until you're old enough to die. May you always be just as happy As we wish you now to be.)

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Hi momma to be! Before I go in to what I want to say, I cannot read what you wrote in fuscia or rose colored type. Maybe it's my cheaters that won't allow me to read it...OK


I am so glad that you are taking control of your life. It is great to plan the way you are and Sk, we can always find reasons why we shouldn't do something. So if you are plannning for about a year away then we should see tummy rising over the sun in a few months, no?



Thank you for all the positive comments! I'm still grinning from ear to ear that this decision has been made.


Onelifetolive, no worries the pink font was me trying out a signature... its scots and the white writing underneath it is the translation. Its the blessing that hubby said to me on our wedding day, and i really liked it and wanted to remember the words.


The plan was that I would start the vitamin taking January 2012 to and change my diet to have far less sugary stuff and take-out. Hubby said last night, why wait, we should start right away. so we're both going on the change to a healthier diet, and I'll be getting loads of iron and vit c tablets this weekend. Come July 2012 I go off my birth control and go on to folic acid tabs. Then I just hope and pray I get preggies by December 2012 (i'll be 30) and hopefully have our baby ready to see the world round about August 2013. Is there other mothers that plan to this detail? I'm an organizer at heart and have to have my plan and backup plan for all big things I do. But hey this little plan might go flying, since telling hubby I feel ready he's all for it with bells on. I don't think I fully realised how much he wanted children...


Hugs to everbody!!




Hi, Skwirl.  I'm so happy for you and your hubby.  


My live-in DIL recently found out she's expecting a little one in March.  Word to the wise:  don't do the home pregnancy test on the weekend when the clinics are all closed.  We had a freaked out family from a Saturday afternoon until mid-day on Monday.   By then it was all over the social-sphere.  They've lost two in the past five years, so she's considered high risk.


I love the Scots blessing.




Sk, that is a beautiful blessing and it would look good hanging on a wall too. Are you checking in with a doctor before you load up on vitamins and folic acid? It seems harmless, but always good to check in with the doc. Planning for a baby has to be one of the most exciting things on earth! I am sure being the organized person you are that everything will be just perfect!

Hi onelifetolive


You're so right, and I will most definently be letting our GP into our plans and getting his thoughts... my anemia is what I'm really worried about and hopefully he can also give me a plan of action. I'll be getting the prenatal vitamins from him as well, so he'll be very involved!


I'm already trying to move the furniture in my mind to make space for something of a nursery. We're not exactly swimming in space, especially with the pc's and the guinea huge cage. hubby still wants his fish tank, which looks like it'll be in the bedroom. (it's a pretty night light he says...)

Overall I'm still trying to find space for the pc's, everything is going to end up in the lounge it seems, to make room for crib...  all this planning, I'm enjoying every minute of it




My goodness! It is so exciting to look forward to a family... It sounds like you might have to get out the measuring tape Skwirl.  Don't be lifting anything heavy!


Congrats to you and your family Barb! Things are really changing around your place!


Well, I went out and got a new puppy myself... I think that's as close as I'll get to a baby for a while. I don't see any grandchildren in my near future! Anyhow, keep us posted - this is such an exciting time!


Hugs, Glenda



wow, wow, wow... congratulations Skwirl... I can feel your enthusiasm and excitement... just don't pressure yourself... it will all happen as it needs to..


Barb congrats as well..


and Glenda... a new puppy... I am jealous... with knowing that I will be traveling back and forth from Mexico to NYC, I haven't allowed myself to get a puppy, kitty or plants in the home.. I miss all but I am living vicariously through other's pets on the streets and in their homes.... I have a huge courtyard of bourganvilla trees, plants, blossoms and the only one I want to be responsible for in my life right now is me...LOL.. it's a big challenge but I am doing it. I owe it to myself after all the caregiving.


Keep me posted everyone... this is a happy post forum...


luv 2 u all





Being such a planner i got the whole timetable in my head.. but yes things will still happen as they will...


I've taken the step to ask my employer if I can study further, this is with the direct intention to make me more employable, with a qualification behind my name, just in case something happens to this company. Thinking about bringing little ones into the world I need to make sure I can take care of them. At the moment I'm still waiting for the final go-ahead and I'll need to sign a contract, binding me to the company for about a year after I've finished studying. Which I'm perfectly okay with as long as there is a company to be bound to. I'm really hoping this go through.


We got guinea pigs recently, and the little piggies are sure keeping us busy! One we thought was a girl was actually a boy, and we had to get him neutered. So hopefully now the cage will be calm and relatively quiet..

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