Jessie has been living with my husband and me since 1998 when we bought her house. She was married to my grandmothers nephew. That's how I'm related to her. She never had any kids, but she has two nephews. They never came around unless they thought she was giong to die. Last year she got pneumonia. She was in the hospital for 3 weeks, then went to a nursing home for 3 weeks. While she was in the hospital the nephews got upset that she made me health power of att. They hadn't seen her for 3 years, but that didn't matter. After she went to the nursing home one of them got her to sign a poa for him. He took all her money out of the bank, which made the checks bounce that I had out for bills, he changed her address, which almost made her loose her co-insurance, because it came before everything went through and the envelope was stamped " no new address" The only thing that saved us was the mailman new she lived here, so he delivered it and I paid it. He even set up her funeral where she specifically said she didn't want it. When she came home, we had a heck of a time getting her money back, but we finally managed it,(minus what he spent) she made me POA. That nephew(Butch) has been coming once a month to see her. The other one(Bill) has been here twice in the past year.
This year she had to have an operation. Neither nephew was there, they knew about it, but Butch had to go to Clolrado and Bill had to work.
She is now back at the rest home, which is 40 miles away, the way gas is, I can't get there every day. Plus I had to get a job, because all the time I've been taking care of her, I didn't get paid. And my hubby got laid off over a year ago so I am just trying to keep my car and utilities. I don't expect to have the internet much longer, but I can go to my daughters for that.
Well, now Butch's girlfriend is going to see her everyday. She tells us how good Jessie is doing, the nurses say different. She wants Jessies dog, so she can take her to see her. Well, we take the dog to see her, and I'm not giving up a dog I've had for 8 years. And if we give her Jessies money, she'll take her to live with her, and it would be much easier if she had POA. This lady can't work because she's getting disability, so how can she take care of someone that's in a wheelchair?
So I need to find Jessie a lawyer, any ideas how I should start? I know there is some group on the elderly's rights, but I can't remember the name.
Plus, what should I be asking or telling the nursing home? Thanks for any suggestions.