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I am writing on behalf of my grandma (age 75) who is the caregiver of my great-grandma (age 94). Great Grandma cannot walk or hear any longer, but is sharp as a tack in her mind.During family functions, she sits quietly in the background because she cannot hear, and has to sit separately from the rest of the family in a comfortable chair at mealtimes. All day long she sits in her chair and reads the TV via the close captioning on the bottom of the screen or reads the paper.
Is there anything she can do in her current physical condition to help gain a sense of purpose? She would love to help my grandma, who she lives with, clean, garden, etc. but she can't. Any ideas of something to do that would help her know she's still a precious, valuable human being?
This is my first time on this site with the sole purpose of finding a way to help Great-grandma feel like she matters.
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Hi, LoveGRozi.

Welcome to the board. What a sweet grand daughter... and great granddaughter you are to reach out this way for others.

If Great-gran is limited to what she can do from her chair, that narrows her options a bit. Folding clothes and towels, perhaps. If Grandma grows veggies in her garden, Great-gran can help snap beans, shell peas, etc. Some other food prep chores may be appropriate, but it would depend on her ability to safely use a peeler or knife.

She might enjoy running junk mail through a shredder... hmmm. Can she do her own mail sorting and bookkeeping?

Also, anything she does for her own care and grooming is a help, although she might not realize it.

I had an uncle who was quite deaf. He always said the mealtime blessing because even if someone else did it, he couldn't hear it and thought it hadn't been done.

Well that's what comes to mind right now.

Please keep posting, and let us know how it goes.

I agree .. you are incredibly sweet!
I know my Mom has a hard time hearing and a difficult time walking but is incredibly strong willed . .

Can your Great Grandma is it ? I agree with Barb it's hard to see on your post if it's safe to do what she suggested . . but I agree with meal preps if she can use her hands . . . for my Mom that's a tough one . . took me a while to 'get' her to quilt as she is very proud . .

Anything she likes or 'used to' do that she doesn't anymore due to pride????
If so can you sit with her or someone and encourage her or do something you like and just leave whatever her hobby it is like a jigsaw or something . . .anything to get her to not watch TV all the time?

Now this is out in left field . . learn sign language or do you think that would make her feel less adequate???

Arrange flowers?



Hope that help!

Hello LoveGRozi

What comes up for me is to have her do something like crocheting or kntting.. something she can learn and do by touch and feeling... there are also audio books from the library for the blind... for thousands of books in so many different topical areas... they send the listening device and the cassetes in the mail for free.. call the national or local chapters for the blind to research more...

let us know how you have made out.


Hi, I skimmed the thread quick so apologies if this has already been mentioned, but how about art? She can't walk or hear, but it sounds like she can sure see ok. My wife once worked as a volunteer art therapist in nursing homes and it did wonders for the residents.

Of course painting and drawing may not be a domestic duty, so if you are wondering if she wants to feel useful, this may not suit, but as an activity to help me feel that I was actually involved in the passage of time, I think I'd get something out of it, myself.

Hope this helps a little.
My gram (82) is in a similar position. She is confined to her chair day and night. She has become my psydo-secretary. She is in charge of remembering birthdays, Dr's appts, keeping track of grocery list (every time I notice something we have run out of--I shout for gram to put it on the list). She gives me a list every week or so with all the things we need. She also keeps track of my schedule and reminds me which days I need to be at work and at what times. Although these are all things that I could handle on my own, it is a great relief to not have to keep track of little things like birthday cards and toilet paper! Gram is the best!

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