Thought this might need a little 'extra' attn. since I saw so many replies to the other posting . . !
Jan. 9 . .. my DH had a bleeding ulcer due to aspirin the hospitals say . . . I think stress and he is I've now found out 2 points away from being obese morbidly ( don't like that term! ) but also has hypertension and high cholesterol . . .
So for me this crosses the line of caring for myself and what am I feeling . . .
The thing that really popped out at me was the statement that people ask why don't you just leave him as I get that too .. .
We've had our challenges but our base values are so similar and if we split up well .. . who's to say the 'next' would be 'better' ????
People love to dive into the deep end of a pool that we haven't invited them to and also love to give advice . . . something I learned in counseling . . .
and that I feel compelled to answer ?s of any sort . . .
Anyway, I came on here to say now I'm caring for my DH on top of everything else and I'm finding my health is taking a nose dive . . .
I've always been a gym not addict but take care of myself however my level of exhaustion has just taken a skyrocket!
I do still go to yoga but it takes so much to get there . . .
And I find myself resentful that my husband did not care for himself and here I am struggling to keep in shape . . .
That sounds just petty I know .. yet that's what I feel alot . .
He's sedentary had a blood tranfusion and seems to feel a lot better and I'm beat! and I'm the active one!
Did go out for a walk today but .. . still
. . . . sigh ~ . . .
I have to keep reminding myself that were this my child I would not think twice . . . to care for this person . . .. so to try and let go of any resentment . . .
Hard tho' when I'm so used to bounding with energy.
He has another endoscopy on the 20th which will be a looooooooong day and I have more acupuncture visits than I would like at the moment but that's what is keeping me 'sane' . . . .
thanks for this place!
And I hope it helps the person caring for an obese spouse!