I feel just sick to my stomach right now. I'm in touch with my mother on an almost daily basis, take her shopping/run errands, bring her to and from Adult Day Care 2x/week, assist her with cares as needed, listen and provide emotional support. Granted she doesn't need intense 24/7 care! (I'm lucky that way.)
I try to keep her as independent as possible by providing her support, choices and empowering decision making and problem solving as she is still capable even though somewhat limited mobility-wise.
Occaisionally, I step in when she is unable to resolve an issue. Recently, I did just that. For a year now, she's been trying to get a water leak fixed in her condo and gotten no where. So, I wrote a letter to the condo Board on her behalf --- (because enough is enough right?) A neighbor of hers who happens to be her building rep just balled me out for not being involved enough in my mother's care. I totally lost it and told her "How dare you. Just who do you think you are to judge how I take care of my mother" I feel guilty about yelling at her but also very very hurt. She simply had no right to be so rude.