My 94 year old mother needs 24 hour care with meds, meals personal care, dressing, etc. She refuses to go to a small group home and is not happy with the home care being given. As the only child(son), I am being blamed for everything that has happened. She is doing her best to make me fell guility because I will not move in and take care of her. At the age of 61, having looked after her for many years in increasing degrees, I feel it is time for my wife and I to have some time for ourselves. How do I deal with these behaviors which are being used to put me into a guilt trip?? I should add that she has very competent and caring people looking after her. Any suggestions would be appreciated as I am a rookie at this.
Thanks for your consideration.