My name is Dolly and I am coming alongside my parents in a recent life transition. I have been helping with caring for my mother's needs in the past 8+ years (increasingly so over the past two months). My mother has had Multiple Sclerosis since 1970. She was recently discharged from a nursing home (3+ months) where she was staying to help provide respite for my father. At this point Dad is also struggling with memory and hearing issues. He is easily agitated, although I know he wishes that he could do more. At this point he is not able to handle the physical care responsibilities for my mother.
So, honeslty I am doing what I can to help both of my parents. The last five weeks have been ESPECIALLY challenging because we fired a very abusive caregiver and the company that failed to arrive for 10 scheduled shifts. Our transition to working with a new company has not been smooth. I have been going to my parents' house and getting my Mom up and ready for the day then heading to work and returning to the house in the evening to get Mom ready for bed. The extra time with my parents has been phenomenal, but my personal life has taken a SIGNIFICANT hit. I don't have time or energy to spend with my boyfriend of 2.5 years. I don't have a strong network of friends who are helping me through this either.
I sure do hope I can find some encouragement in this network. I'm not really looking for suggestions, just a place to come and witness others as they navigate the challenges of serving people they love. It can be very lonely to keep myself so busy and not take time to care for myself. So, I'm praying for some direction here. I've got to do something differently because my energy is depleted. I've got a LOT to do in the next few weeks to catch up with graduate classes. I'm pursuing a degree in social work and going to school full time (while attempting to bring a small income to pay for necessities).
Thank you for having me in this forum. I look forward to being actively engaged and learning from each of your experiences.