Hi, Anne.
Wow, 101! That's amazing she has stayed out of a care facility this long.
We placed my mother in assisted living a few years ago when she was in her late seventies. She has diabetes (neuropathy) and Parkinson's - which we didn't know at the time - and was a fall risk. The nightly ritual for getting her upstairs was taking longer. Getting her to the bathroom was almost as bad. Finally she fell getting out of bed one morning and I couldn't get her up by myself. My husband is disabled with his back, but he helped me get her in bed then had to go to bed himself for 3 days to recover.
It was an adjustment for all of us to place her in a home. The first one was a good transition because they worked with us on the finances and bending the rules to keep her after she had a slow healing surgery wound on her leg that required extra care. Then they went up dramatically on rent, so she moved to a more established facility that she really liked.
One of the things we did to get her to leave her room was to not give her a TV. She eventually got to socializing and making friends, playing bingo, etc. When we did get her a tv, we did not hook it up to cable, so she would still have incentive to get out instead of "vegging out" on CNN.
Next week will be a year that she left assisted living as her health took a downward turn (we almost lost her 3 times last year). Now she is in a nursing home, much improved, but still too fragile to leave. Now that she cannot ambulate at all, she has cable tv, and stays in her room to avoid the wandering dimentia patients. I visit at least twice a week, and weather-permitting, take her for wheelchair "strolls" around the little town where the nh is.
I guess what I'm saying is that with time, your mom should adjust and may actually come to enjoy her new situation. Do visit her often and take her for outings when you can. Make friends with the staff yourself and they will be more friendly with her and more willing to help you both with the transition.
Please let us know how it goes.
Hugs,
Barb