Re: FIL has transitioned over

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My FIL passed away on Wednesday morning. He had been on such a roller coaster ride for the past 18 months. He was truly tired of fighting and decided he "just wanted to go." Since we live in SoCal and he resided in WA, my husband and I could not make it in time to be with him. I called a good friend of his and asked that she go to the hospital and be with him until he passed. She called after he breathed his last breath with a message from my FIL to his son, my husband, saying "we tried our best."

Thanks to all of you for the support that you have given to us for the past year and a half. This caregiving journey has been extremely stressful but at the same time, it was something I knew I had to do. If for no other reason, but to let him know that we loved him.

Mikki

3/5/0611:51 AM

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glenderellaMember

Dear Mikki:

I am so sorry to hear of you and your husband's loss. It is so hard to lose a parent. I remember when my FIL passed away, I never cried so hard as during his memorial service.

Thank you for posting and letting us know. Do not hesitate to post during this time if you feel the need. I think the only thing harder than caring for our elderly loved ones is losing them...

It is good that a dear friend was with him at the end. I am sure that he was secure in your love all the way. It definitely shown through in your postings how much care and concern you had for him during the last year and a half - with his best interests at heart first and foremost... God bless you and your hubby now, Mikki.

Love and Hugs from Glenda

3/5/0612:06 PM

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{{{{{{Mikki}}}}}} my thoughts and prayers are with all of you... what a beautiful message your friend was able to carry back to you... your FIL, knew that you were there for him on all elvels....

my your healing be gentle and nurturing... please keep us posted...

blessings

gail

3/5/061:02 PM

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Thanks to both of you for your kind words and your support. This message board was truly a Godsend for me as there were days when I just sat and read through all the topics looking for answers. I have recommended this board to others in a caregiving role.

3/6/068:45 AM

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Former Member

Mikki:

My deepest sympathy to you & your husband on the loss of your FIL.

I loved what he said - "we tried our best" -that brought tears to my eyes.

Hugs,

Janet

3/7/068:41 AM

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Former Member

Thanks Janet! I have read your posts over the last 18 months and know how much time and energy you have dedicated to those close to you. I can tell that you are more at peace with yourself, now. You are truly an angel!!

Mikki

3/8/068:49 PM

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Hello Mikki... I am hoping you will continue to post.. You have been an integral support here at the community and I am know the community supports you as well on your journey...

blessings

gail

3/9/0610:23 AM

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