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I am looking for input about my families housing. My father just passed away in Sept. Both Mom and Dad had cancer last year. Mom is now clean (for 6 months). We have been living with them for 6 months. My marriage and sanity are disappearing. Mom is 62, so she is still very young, however, she looks at me like a scared child when I try to give her anything to do(ie balance checkbook, call social security). I feel like I need to move out, but I also feel pulled to find a common living arrangement. My mom could live to be 100 or she could get the cancer back and pass on next year. I can't figure out what to do. Any ideas.

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You do have a problem. And healthy decisions, which MUST be based on the logical AND the emotional, are soooo hard to make. Does your Mom feel frightened of caring for herself in ways other than business? ie- caring for herself personally, caring for her home, making a social life for herself?
I do pray that Christ, through the Holy Spirit, will guide you in this decision; and give you peace of mind when the decision has been made. I suspect that nothing you can do will be 100% best for everyone involved.
With love
Hello Ann

Welcome.. glad you posted here.. It is difficult coming to terms with your mom and making decisions for her future based on her given situation.

There are many options available to you. You can get home health care in her own home, you can place her in a retirement community or an assisted living facility.

Do make sure you have the POA - power of attorney and access to help make decisions especially if she is having difficulty in doing so herself...

Keep us posted... hope to see you in the chats where we can provide more support as well.

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