Hi I am new to this site, and so glad to have found it. My Father In-Law has Dementia and is home living with My Mother In-Law. They have 5 children, some have families and some do not. The oldest child is single with no children, she is none stop fighting with other siblings and telling her mother how to care for Dad. I work 9-10 hours a day, my husband works 11 hours a day, we have 3 children. When Dad first became sick, we offered to add an in-law apartment to our home, but mom does not want to give up her house. I have slept over their house at times and I am the only person other than my kids, that will give grampie a bath. My Husband or myself usually get Dad into bed at night. Another sibiling helps get him up every morning. This one sibling has torn the family apart. Her constant screaming and yelling and calling everyone names and how she is there everyday and has no life has everyone to the point they don't want to got to the house. She has never slept over never given him a bath. I feel everyone does what they can. Mom will not stand up to anyone and is crying just about everyday. Nursing Home is not an option, The "queen" says that would be killing him!!!
It is so bad that no one will be spending the holidays together this year.
Is this normal??? Pleas Help!!