I will try to tell this story as accurate as I can and with out emotion.
A friend of my wife and I told me another long time friend and his wife, that live out of state, were coming to a wedding and would spend a few days in out city with he and his wife. I told him that we would like to see them, if my wife was up to it, while they were here. We have not been as active with the out of town friends since my wife as become so ill. I see my friend often and he usually calls every day. He tells me often that he really appreciates his best friend. I am a good listener and he seems to have lots of complaints and problems. He is still working and hates it. I also discuss with him my wife�s health situation and how I am personally dealing with it.
Our friends took a two day trip with our out of town friends and when they returned, my in town friend calls and tells me they are back and what a great time they had and that he is going to cook steaks that night for the out of town friends but they have a small window if we would like to come over for a glass of wine.
That is what my friend said but what I heard was � we have a short amount of time and you can come over and have a glass of wine and see our friends and then go home so we can have dinner�.
I made excuses and did not join them.
I know that because of my wife�s condition our visits are not as much fun as they once were and her illness can detract from a happy party atmosphere. I know that and yet I am surprised that long time good friends can not deal with that for two or three hours every now and then.
This is the first time I have felt excluded by family or friends because of my wife�s condition. I can not thing of any other reason why we were not invited for the evening, which would have normally happened in the past
Is this something others are dealing with and how do you handle it.
More of the story later.
Wishing you peace and happiness where ever you may find it.