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Yikes! DH was furlowed for 4 months no pay Mom/ Dad are 80 and counting . ..
they say they won't die tomorrow but they have been helping us with our bills . .

I don't know if this qualifies as 'care giving' but to face their mortality deal with counseling and now wonder if my own safety / shelter will be intact is unbelievably overwhelming .

It seems to be working out but I feel like I'm 'losing my mind!' . . .
Trying to count blessings etc

Anticipitory grief,
Marriage stuff,

I know the country is a mess but wow . ..
I can't breathe!


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Dear Seba:

You must breathe - take a deep breath now... Things are a little crazy these days and it is not any easier when one has elderly parents to worry about.

Some of our parents have been through some pretty rough times in their lives and are probably better able to get through this period than some of us who have never experienced times like this. You know what Friedrich Nietzsche(German philosopher)said, "whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger"!

I am sorry to hear about your DH's furlough. That doesn't help at all! It is hard not to get scared at times.

I think we can only take this year one day at a time - just like care-giving. Try not to worry and take those deep breaths. Fix yourself a cup of tea or hot chocolate if you can. It's important to take care of yourself too!

Hugs, Glenda
Seba... lots of loving hugs coming in your direction. Yes, the world is in chaos and most of us are going through turmoil as well.. not only on the outside in our lives but on the inside.

For me, it is a time of transformation and transition. It is an opportunity to go within.. acknowledge and embrace fears so they can be released not only from my mind but from within on a cellular level as well.

Instead of focusing on the fears.. it's important to focus on what we do have.. our own breath of life.. the fact that we wake up each day without a machine.. the fact that we can heal our own fears through recognition and acceptance.. and find where they are stemming from.

There are three audios with Oprah talking with a woman named Byron Katie... they are very powerful and they are about 20 minutes each. You can download them to your computer and listen as often as you can... the link is:

another very special meditation that focuses on creating changes from within for ourselves is by Davidji and it can be found at:

I think upon listening to these you will begin to gather an inner peace... more strength and courage... remember that we always have choice in any given moment...

Please keep us posted.... and please be gentle and nurturing with yourself...

take care

Hi, seba.

There are two things that get me through tough times. One is what I flippantly call "the faith thing." This is my abiding belief that no matter what happens, it is for the greater good in the long run. The other is the Serenity Prayer - asking for strength and guidance to do what's best in a given situation.

--- but here's a cyber (((hug))) just because I totally understand what you are saying.

Sending positive thoughts your way,

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