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When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand.  The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.  

Henri Nouwen
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Finding such true friends is a real blessing. I wanted to comment on this because I recently had to come to terms with losing two friends that I couldn't even understand what had happened and why I was losing them in the first place. I even tried to hold on.... only to realise that you can't hold onto friendships if the other person has already let go. The thought of it still makes me sad, you share so much with someone and they simply turn their back on you. Believe me I find it very difficult to trust people, it takes awhile to form friendships and to develop trust, and when my trust is broken it takes awhile for me to get over it. I've heard via other mutual friends that they have changed toward them too... so its not just me.... I still feel concerned for them though. I truly hope they are okay.

Hello Asiza...

first off updates and daily affirmations, quotes etc are not supposed to be replied to... I am trying to figure out how to block replies... in the meantime, I have put this onto what are you feeling because this really works here..

As for your reply I an so relate to it... throughout my life I have had similar experiences... whereby I feel deep soulful connections...and poof it is gone...  and I have not been able to release some for years.. the pain has been very strong... but what I have come to understand and realize on a deeper level is that people come into our lives for a reason...although we may have an expectation of how the friendship is to evolve, the universe has different plans for us and it is not in our control... so I am learning to be more fully present in the moment and to understand that when one door closes another opens... and for sure, this happens leading me onto to new friendships that offer even more...hindsight always will show us this... so be gentle and nurturing with yourself.. because when your heart is closed and not with trust, the doors will not open.... there is so much to explore and you are evolving and growing constantly, facing new challenges so it is necessary to meet new people as you evolve that meet your present needs... I do hope you understand...

2 life
Hi Gail

Thanks for moving my reply.

I am slowly learning that the best thing you can do in this situation is to wish them well and keep my heart open. I will remember the good times and look forward to more friendships and good experiences in the near future. I suppose I won't stop worrying about them for quite awhile but I can't help that... in time things will settle in my own heart and I won't feel so betrayed by them.

'such is life'

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