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I just registered today and have read some of the postings and started to cry. My Dad has been sick for over 2 years and started showing signs of demenita about then. Last November he became sexualy aggressive to me. I should let you know that he lives in his own apartment downstairs in my house. My Mum died 13 years ago, I am divorced and in November it was just Dad, my 17 year old daughter and me. At first he only went after me, but never remembered the attack afterwards, so I just let it ride while I went to the Geriatric Psycho. Unit here in town to get information. I couldn't believe how strong he was, but was able to defend myself and eventually everytime he came upstairs, I pretended to be talking to someone on the phone. You could always tell by the look in his eye, whether he was normal or not. Then one day he attacked my daughter physically (thankfully not sexually). I put him in a Physh. Ward for evaluation and they put him on meds. He came home after 2 weeks, but unfortunately, my daughter could not stay in the house. She went to live with her brother and is doing fine.
Dad is starting to backstep, and I don't want to put him in a home. I am on meds for anxiety already and am on edge all the time.
I know this is a long story, but to make it short, I love my Dad and know he does not know what he is doing. I would like to talk to anyone who might have been or might been in a similar situation.

Thanks for any help you might be able to give.
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Thanks for reading and responding to the very long letter I wrote. It was a comfort that there are other people going through the same thing. Dad seems to be stable right now, but had another TIA this morning, so I take each day one at a time.
It must be so hard for people who have these diseases, they know something is wrong but don't know how to fix it.
He just wants to die, so I am praying that sometime soon he will do so in his sleep.
Thanks again for listening. It is nice to know there are people out there to talk to.
Hello Deb...

You have been incredible caring as you are for your dad even with the attacking.. Please understand that there may come a time when you might need to place him into a nursing home. Your door has been uprooted.. your own mental/emotional state comprimised... and when you can no longer handle it, it will not mean you have failed.. it will mean that you have given all that you could without comprimising your own well being any further. After all, if something were to happen to you, who would care for both of you?

Please keep us posted..

richest blessings

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