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I really need some advise. I am 47 with a 16 year old daughter. I live with my 67 year mom. My mom has been disabled since I was born. She has scoliosis(curvature of the spine). She's on oxygen 24/7. I have no formal education but 4 years ago I got a really great job. This april I lost that job. They laid off alot of people and I was one of them. I am the sole breadwinner, I cook, clean I do everything. I cant find a good paying job for anything. I am broke all the time, and I am just so scared, I am at my wits end. I just dont know what to do.
In 1986 I went to a college that turned out to be a scam. I took out a student loan to go to it, and when I graduated I couldnt even get the job I trained for, so now I have a $6,000 student loan I am paying off.
My mom is now a shut in, she wont go anywhere, only to the doctor and then I drive her. She is also extremely pessimistic about everything. I have also become extremely isolated, I dont have one single friend. I have two sisters but they are not living in the same state and wont help at all. I just dont know what to do to change my situation.
Any advise would be greatly appreciated. Thank you
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Dear arkansasgal:

I am sorry to hear about your job loss. You are going through a very hard time but do not be too hard on yourself. There are other jobs out there which I am sure you have the qualifications for. When you have a chance, get out your resume and go to your local unemployment office and see if they can provide you some assistance in updating and polishing it up.

I can only imagine how hard it must be to have a parent disabled from the time of your birth. I am sure it has made it somewhat difficult for you throughout your life. Are there any support groups in your area for care-giving?

Meanwhile, take a deep breath and know that we are here for you. If you were to think about yourself, I bet you would find that you have many exceptional qualities that you can add to your resume. Do not be afraid - you are an amazing person, a warm and wonderful daughter! Hang in there, dear heart...

Hugs, Glenda

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