Today's a doozy of a day ~ Mom's a "tad" manic lately. She's pressed the emergency call button on the home monitoring system three times today. The first one sounds legit - seeing that the home health aide hooked up her hoyer lift sling BACKWARDS and toppled my mother out of the lift. Thank God my father was home to assist and that Mom only fell back to the bed (in a very precarious position that left the lift LOCKED). What a nightmare?
This triggered Mom's mania moreso and led her to press the call button two additional times because she says my father "threatened" her. My father reports that she was upset that he would not get her cooking supplies and was being beligerent.
This is all funny when I'm not the one living in the house currently. What happens when I bring my mother to live with me? How will I manage situations such as this? Will issues like this take place? Undoubtedly.
How did I learn about the EMERGENCY call button being depressed, you ask? Oh, that was because the home monitoring agency called me to let me know that my mother was ok, but had pressed the button and indicated that she fell out of her chair. . .
Last week, I was informed that my father does NOT qualify for additional prior authorization hours because he is "as fit as a fiddle" according to his primary care doctor (who has not seen him in years, btw). He was required to have a physical in order to provide documentation to the State indicating that he is not capable of taking care of my mother's needs. Let me mention that DAD is the sole reason my mother was put in a nursing home for three months. She was placed on a RESPITE stay because he was mentally and physically incapacitated. The family physician has no knowledge of this. I called the physician and left a message about the background information, but he was not interested in hearing what I have to say. He said that he would not provide a letter indicated that Dad is not capable of taking care of my mother. Did I mention he was homicidal and suicidal when Mom was admitted to the nursing home last year?
Ugh, I am so frustrated. What do I do now? I am going to have to move my mother in with me (and away from her husband) because she only qualifies for 60 hours of "skilled" home health care assistance each month. That's two hours of reprieve a day.
Did I mention that when I went to the house today, my mother's pants were COMPLETELY soaked through? Did I mention that the home health "idiot" who botched up the hoyer lift today arrived angry? She was upset because my mother had called and tattled on her for being late to the house last week. . . Does that justify tossing a woman out of the hoyer lift and risking her safety? I think not! I feel HORRIBLE about leaving my mother in a manic episode with soaked pants because the depends were put on IMPROPERLY so that I could get to class on time. I should have changed her before I left. But, I knew that was going to be an impossible battle to fight with her.
So, instead I am riddled with guilt over leaving my distressed father to oversee my mother in a manic episode make banana bread with DRENCHED pants.
I suck as a human being today.