Posted for Susan D.
HI YOU WONDERFUL PEOPLE!
GOD BLESS YOU FOR YOUR WONDERFUL WEB SITE! THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART!
Last summer I saw an article, and I believe it was on your web site, about the financial hardship to a family care giver. I have searched your whole web site and I cannot find it! Darn! I would love to have that article, or something similar, if you know of one, or can point me in the right direction!
I have given up my career to care for my 88 year old Mother. I have lived with her for 10 years now, with minimal weekly financial support. I do have a woman who comes in 2 days a week to take care of Mother, but the rest of the time it is me.
I have a brother and a sister who live here(both married) who are sometimes available to be here if I want to go out (maybe once every week or two). My problem is that after taking care of Mom, the house and all the
responsibilities involved with maintaining a home that was built 50 years ago, after this I have no time or energy left to do my art work!
I had an art career before moving in with Mom. Actually the real problem is that my 2
brothers and my sister feel that I should not get paid anything extra (after Mother passes away) for all the years that I have been here taking care of her. They say I have a house to live in and don't have to buy food!
I know a woman who is doing the same thing I am doing, but she was "hired" and is getting paid $50,000 a year, plus all her expenses are paid and she has a car to use and gets the weekends off! When I told my family this they said that was "different," that because I am a family member I should not expect to get paid, because it is my Mother I am taking care of! This is a real serious problem, because now I am 58 and if I don't receive a salary for my time being here I will have some money, but not nearly enough to support myself! Plus, I don't know how much energy I will have to go out and work!
If there are no unforeseen illnesses (Mom is in fairly good health, thank God) I will inherit some money, but not nearly enough to cover what I have lost over the years of not being able to produce my art and bring in an
income! Several years ago I wrote a letter to my family and sent it to each one individually trying to explain that I felt it was only fair that when Mother goes home to God, that I be compensated for my devotion, commitment and time! They just laughed at me!
I know I cannot possibly be the only person in this situation! You must run into this with other people that write to you. HELP, PLEASE! I am thinking of hiring an attorney to state my case, so I can be compensated. Do you know of one?
I SO APPRECIATE ANY HELP AND ADVICE YOU CAN GIVE ME! THANK YOU SOOO VERY MUCH!
GOD BLESS YOU, SUSAN D