that the ones who always have something to say about the way you do things or the housekeeping (or lack of it) in your home..are the ones who never ever have lifted a finger to help you out at all? I mean, what do they expect?
My house is very much in disarray...as is our entire life while my husband has been going through this terrible illness (Lou Gehrig's disease) I am so busy, I no longer keep a perfect home..oh well! But, and I'm not kidding, I literally overheard my MIL gossiping about me to someone else (she forgot to hang up the phone, poor dear..and I heard everything) what she said was so very hurtful and amounts to nothing more than her desire to gossip. She has helped us not at all. Not a moment's time has she spared. Neither have any of the other family members. Oh yea, they can talk the big talk alright. But I've seen no action, even when I've asked point blank!
Anyway, MIL says that I've "trashed the house" that it's filthy (which it is not) that I don't take care of my husband very well and that I keep him from the rest of the family! They all know where to find him for sure. He cannot contact them on the phone, etc. because he no longer speaks. All that she said takes a lot of nerve, I daresay, when no one has come around to help relieve me of any of the duties I have which are many. Anyone else have this same thing going on?
BTW, I don't have any of MY family in the area, just my husband's. And they really are only interested in meddling and gossiping rather than actually doing anything constructive at all! Am I expected to call them out of the blue when hubby's drawing his last breath? I really hope they've come around by then. They should be in our lives enough to know what's going on any given day but they can't be bothered even though they live within a few miles and have always been "in touch" all along until he got so sick.
Sorry to sound so angry but I am. Hope someone here understands and maybe could relate? Thank You.