Additional reason caregivers do not care for themselves

Hi Nina...

I think your dilemma can be said for a lot of caregivers...You know you aren't going anywhere so why get all gussied up...lol...I know while caregiving sweat pants became my clothing of choice...very comfy for in-home living...
Some sort of recreation? Hmmmm...
This I think could be anything from a craft you are interested in, to maybe a form of exercise, perhaps some sort of easier home/room decorating...what you need to find is something that will give you a sense of accomplishment...That seems to help, having a finished product in the end that you are proud of.
I am trying to think what all I undertook while caregiving...I did a lot of embroidery...it was something I could relax with and still keep a close eye on my mom...I did a lot of cleaning and cooking/baking...I tried never to let a day go by when she was feeling good to take her out somewhere, as getting away from the house did us both good...I also did a lot of self-educating of computers...lol...I felt a need to learn something...

Let us know if you have come up with anything..or what some of your interests are..Even if it is something you think you can't do now at home someone may have ideas of how to instill them into a more at-home style...

Take care...
P.G.

{{{{Nina}}}}}

I think many caregivers dimminish themselves in their roles as caregivers. For many caregivers, the patient is the most important factor, not ourselves. We minimalize our own needs to serve them. We do this under the name of love, but at the same time we risk caring for ourselves physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Our self worth and self confidence depreciates as we lose ourselves in the caregiving process. We feel so overly responsible for the one we are caring for.

When it comes time to caring for ourselves, it is as if we want someone else to do the caring. So, it is important in caregiving to distinguish whether or not we are experiencing slight depression or overhwelming exhaustion and burnout. We give and give and many a time we are not replenished in receiving directly for ourselves. When we don't get anything back other than the concept that we have given to our loved one, we are depleted.. It is difficult to muster up the feeling that we are deserving.

Most of the time as caregivers we tend to beat ourselves up because we don't feel we are doing enough. If we don't allow ourselves to receive, it is difficult to think that we are even worthy anymore. Giving to another is not enough replenishment for ourselves under these circumstances. Yet we still say we are doing it because we love them so. As if we can keep them alive longer. We are not god. We are made in God's image and do the very best that we can but truthfully we cannot keep them here a minute longer than they are supposed to be. But as children of God it is our responsibility to care of oursevles..not only as a caregiver, but because this is God's gift to us...free will to live our lives fully...

Just today in my doctor's appointment, the doctor said I must walk a mile a day for my own personal enjoyment. It isn't difficult exercise. It gets the organs, cirulation, etc. all moving; it releases endorphins that increase our emotional and mental well being. And while you must remain home most of the time Nina, I can't see Louis not supporting you to take 15 minutes to a half hour to yourself to improve the quality of your own life. One person deteriorating is difficult enough. We don't have to do it to ourselves.

It's difficult inititating it and getting started but it is always more of a challenge to help ourselves first so that we can be better prepared to help our loved one. If walking doesn't grab you, find something else that does, that elevates the self image you have of yourself... you must always remember that you are worthy and loving and deserve to feel this way about yourself all of the time..

richest blessings angel..

love & light
gail

Hi,

I have to agree to the above,I found that doing my creative writing course helped me feel way more validated than I ever was. I also can attest to the fact that there are a lot of times when I think that all I'm good for is looking after my mom. It breaks you down day by day until there is nothing left and you disentegrate. That resulted in me having to go onto antidepressants. I would never have committed suicide but the thoughts of it just wouldn't go away. Naturally when my mom gets depressed I have very little energy to help her. I hope that with this experience I can become a stronger person and help someone else with what I've learned.

Rgs Falcon

Hello Falcon and welcome

caregiving can truly be an emotional rollercoaster and I am glad to hear that you got the medical attention you needed.. I think of how many other caregivers would lose it, myself included at times, without the meeting and support of other caregivers who truly understand what we are going through..

we are here for you...keep us posted.

richest blessings
gail

Hi Nina,

Your mother is so very lucky to have you. I just received news that an old colleague of mine passed away alone in her home and wasn't found for 2 days after she died. As your mothers caregiver, you are with her most of the time so that this would not happen to her. However, an hour or two, to yourself is necessary for you to replenish your perspective on your life. If you have a cell phone, you could be reached quickly if you are needed. 911 could get help to her if you are far away. I have found that the best time to go is when my ladies are napping. If one of them should go while I am out refreshing myself, I know that I have done my very best for them, and that they were not alone but for a short time. If I didn't care for myself and keep myself well and happy, who would take care of them? I do care for them and love them, so feel it is my duty to stay fit, mentally and physically. You don't have to go overboard, but you must take care of you.
jshew

Amen, and welcome jshew

what a beautiful way of expressing yourself.. are you a professional caring full time?

Gail

Sometimes the reason we don't try to "gussie up" is fear--I know I am afraid to try and look good because I might succumb to a charming man who is interested in me. Before my husband became disabled, I dressed up and felt sexy for him; now, there is no sex, just the occasional intimate moments, but I miss the way it was. Before we got married, I dated several really nice guys and experienced a variety of intimacy; none was as good as it was with my husband. Now I catch myself wondering what it'd be like again; but I'm too afraid to hurt my husband. So I stay frumpy and scare the guys away that used to be interested in me. But, yeah, the sheer exhaustion makes it kinda hard to dress up when you don't HAVE to. Now, I am working outside the home again, and HAVE too, but not TOO good, know what I mean?
Mary

Hello Mary,

I understand what you are saying.. but truthfully in essence you are saying that to look good has to be for a man... and I ask you why you can't look great and feel good just for you, to uplift your own spirit... not everthing has to be tied to the notion of sex or sexual intimacy although, with good reason, you are missing it at this point.

We must learn to do these things for ourselves and not necessarily for others...

so take the chance and don't keep hiding and living behind that mask of fear.. you deserve more joy and love in your life.. most of all to feel good about you.. frumpy as you call it can weigh heavily on you bringing on depression, feelings of not good enough, etc etc.

please keep us posted.. take care and be good to yourself...

gail

I think as caregivers we have to stay in our own personal routine pertaining to taking care of ourselves as much as we possibly can...
When I took care of my mom I always dressed halfway nice...lol..even if it were only sweats...and not a day went by that I didn't bathe, wash my hair, and put on makeup...just makes ourselves feel a bit more "normal" in the hectic role as caregiver...
Another consideration in getting to the point where you figure the heck with it is to realize our loved ones zero in on everything...and it could be detrimental to their well-being if they feel they are stressing us out to the point we don't feel like doing our usual dress/makeup/etc ritual...

take care everyone...
PrairieGal

Boy, I can relate to this topic. I met a wonderful man and we will have been dating one year next month. If you can call it dating. He stays at my home alot because I cannot leave. Occasionally we sneak out for a couple of hours. But when I am alone I find no desire to "get up and go" do anything. Been a caregiver to my father exhausts me more mentally than physically. I am often late because I can't get out of the chair once my father is settled. I procrastinate constantly. I never used to do that. Let me know if you find something that works for you. Being intimate with my boyfriend is hard (my house is not a mansion - LOL) and it's like having a small child again.

How fortunate Notenoughours that you have a wonderful man who truly understands.. You are truly blessed...

Hope you have been having a wonderful holiday... take care

gail

Thanks Gail.

Yes, he is so a special part of my life. I hope it doesn't eventually scare him away! But, when he was in his early to mid twenties, he watched his mother suffer from a brain tumor and his father had to care for her until they had to place her in a nursing home where she eventually passed. His father had to work and raise 3 boys alone, so he certainly is not a stranger to an ill parent.I truly do feel blessed. I hope you had a wonderful holiday as well.

Hello NS,

I am sure he is an incredible support and that he is in your life for a very specific purpose... enjoy and don't negate it..

g

Thanks Gail.

No, I sure won't.

I am finding it more and more difficult to care for me. Having to stop working I believe has not helped with getting me out of the house. What I am having a difficult time with is leaving my home, and not having someone other than my children, (who I feel should not have to be responsible), or my husband. I have to say, for sure, we, the caregivers give up a lot. I am finding myself daily wanting my life back.

Wow....I am reading this and tears are rolling down my face. I so understand. I thought it was just me who didn't wash my hair or put on any other clothing than sweat pants or pj pants. I have been a care giver to some extent for years. My Mother has always suffered from a mental illness & my Father had open heart (aorta valve replacemnt & quad bypass when I was 15). I am now 36 years old and this is the hardest it has ever been. My parents both in their early 80's who HATE each other I may add live with me in an in-law-suite I purchased three years ago. My Mother has breast cancer, dementia, heart condition. My Father has prostrate cancer, heart condition & myloid dsyplasia. There are a few more floating around, but those are the highlights. My Father for all his illness has been pretty mobile, except when he broke his shoulders a few years back. I am fortunate to be able to work from home as a consultant since I am a single parent of a 17 year old daughter. I only get out of the house about 5-8 hours a week to run errands and take my Father to the Doctors. I have not been to a movie in 2 years, out with friends in 8 months. Having people over the house is not an option cause its too much excitement for my Mother. We cannot watch TV because it upsets my Mother. I cannot run the vacuum, dishwasher, washer or dryer...to much excitment again. I cannot speak of politics, finance, real estate or current events...again too much excitment. My parents argue constantly. My Mother thinks my Father is a magician. My Father gets mad at me for helping my Mother, My Mother yells at me when I talk to my Father. I am an only child, my Father is an only child and my Mother's siblings are deceased. I work work work cook clean dress bath take to the bathroom. On a good nite I am in bed by 1. On an average nite I am up to 3 or 4. Never up later than 7:30. I feel like I am going to scream. I am angry a lot of the time anymore. Sad a lot of the time. When I ask my Father to sell his house so we can get more help w/ a companion maybe 10-20 hours a week he gets all depressed or yells. There is nobody but me. I feel soooo overwhelmed. I do have a boyfriend who lives with me, but does not help at all. I basically keep him around to mow the lawn, do heavy lifting and run emergency errands. But he is usally out with the neighbors so if I am lucky I get help. I know this is all jumbled together.......but I feel sooooo many emotions at once I can barely breath. I don't even know who I am anymore or what I like. I don't want to be so resentful, that bothers me the most. But I am tired, and sad and angry...............

Hello Angel,

depending on where you are living check to see if there is a local faith in action program that can provide some volunteer support and again as I mentioned in another post to you.. since your dad's functions have dimminished so greatly, please check with his doctor about Hospice... generally speaking Hospice is a remarkable program, with support and relief to assist you.. please let me know if you need more info or directions... blessings
gail

Hello jmw0913

Boy, I totally feel your mixed emotions and rightfully so. I am very concerned for your own well being.. your parents relationship is not healthy and none of it is nurturing or supportive for you.

Unfortunately these family dynamics are not something that came about over night. Is it possible to get some volunteer services in to assist you... you need time for you.. you might also want to get some counseling to learn how to set boundaries.. you may also check with your mother's physician so that he can sedate her some so that you can lead somewhat normal conditions in the environment without her losing it so frequently. It obviously may difficult to initiate change with your mom and her dementia, but your dad has his faculties, and you must sit down and communicate how this is all taking a toll on you and that he is going to have to shift some of his energies to love and support you. If he can't, my question which has been running through my mind since I read your post is why are you doing this? How much are you willing to take before you either burn out or can no longer do it? This is a very impt question for you to get in touch with. And you might need to bring in a doctor or minister or someone to help your dad understand that you need money to get help because what will they do if something should happen to you? You must face this.. we are here to support and direct you to get the assistance you need... blessings dear angel..

gail

I must have missed these posts. I totally am feeling this stage. Not taking care of me. I keep trying, but it isn't happening. I use to work, exercise, go out with my co-workers to lunchs, movies, and enjoy just sitting in my family room with my family. Not anymore. I don't have company either. Dad is right there either sighing from boredom, or flicking the remote non-stop. I cannot be free in my own home. I go to bed when he does, so I spend no private/quality time with my husband. I am just too tired to socialize. I have had a massage done 2x's since dad has been here. My friend is a massage therapist. Just wish I could have one EVERYDAY. The other issue is financial. Although my husband is the primary breadwinner, my income covered the groceries, and other things. I had to convince my mom to pay me what I was paid for working only 20hours a week, and she flipped out. Told me she cannot afford it. Meanwhile her husband is getting cared for 24-7, very well might I add. I also do the taxes, bills, and insurance. I am suffering from BurnOUT, and depression it seems and that scares me.

Hi Robin,

Yes you are suffering from burnout and depression... you are fortunate you have your husband who is supportive and understandning.. and it was good that you were able to get your mother to contribute..

The only challenge you are still faced with is setting some boundaries with your father and not letting him bounce you around as you do. You are emotionally attached and hooked into his energies.. you I believe, feel his pain etc as you are very empathic.

You need to sit down with him and ask him to listen to what you have to say and share with him in a loving way all that you are going through.. what this does to you emotionally and how it is breaking you down. Mind you, don't let him even begin to think you are trying to make him feel guilty.. what you are doing is conveying how you react and or respond to all that he goes through.. and that it is taking it's toll on you and this is what you are going to need from him.. and explain it.. including letting a volunteer or an aid or someone come into respite you.. Ask him who will care for him if something happened to you? If you were to get a heart attack? You know nothing is impossible..

and then explain to him that you are needing time for you.. so while he is flipping the remote and watching television, take time to take a candlelit bath, to go outside for a walk.. to write in a journal, to breathe fully.. no one, mind you, no one can do these things for you.. you must do them for yourself...

keep us posted


take care

gail

Gail,
Amen, you are absolutely right, and I have begun this process already today. As a matter of fact I am even going out with my hubby for a couple of hours tonight, just because. Told dad I was doing this to take care of me. Then our conversation continued from there. He seems fine with it, especially because my daughter will be here, and he is fed. I am so happy something brought me to *Empowering Caregivers*. THANK YOU~!

Fortunately Robin there are no accidents and only synchronicity.. can you remember how you found the site? It's always interesting to hear.

In the meantime I hope you have a fantastic evening with your hubby.. and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers as you continue to create more time for you... keep us posted.
gail

Gail,
Had a wonderful time last night. My daughter called me once to tell me dad kept questioning when I would be home. I had already told him when I would be home, he seemed restless, and agitated that I wasn't there to *put him to bed*. He sleeps in my family room everynight, his bed was open and made, and any other time he just gets himself in bed. To say the least I felt rushed and bit annoyed at him. When I got home, which was at 10pm, left at 7, he was complaining how tired he was and then went to bed, and we all had to leave the room. All I can say, and kept saying is, I am glad hubby and I had some quality time away from home.
As for finding the boards I just was surfing and type in the word Caregiving...and there you were.

Hello Robin,

I am so pleased to hear that you had a good time with your husband... It's too bad that you let your dad make you feel rushed and guilty.. he is strong in his own way.. and if he didn't go to sleep until later, I am sure it would have been ok... when you take care of him as a child, he needs you and will be resentful as a child.. and he must learn that you need to do what is right for you without taking on any guilt.. if you were to observe what is going on from the outside and you were hearing another person write of this experience, you would have the same feedback for them as well.. I just know that you would most likely say the same thing... keep up the good work though.. it isn't easy carving out the time and saying "after me, you come first! If something were to happen to me dad, who would care for you?"

keep us posted

g

Angel I have been reading your posts and I am soooo happy that you were able to get out. I can relate to the feeling rushed and being guilty for going out. I have had that for years. Recenlty however I am not as strong and have just given in to ONLY go out to get to the grocery store, run errands and take my Father to the Doctors. Its been a pretty bad week. I continue to feel resentful and overwhelmed. I think cause I know its only going to get worse b-4 it gets better.........my Mother has been extremely nervous lately. The family doctor will not prescribe any new medicines to help her sleep. So the last few nights I've been getting a couple of hours on the couch. I HATE that couch. Spent All of August thru December on it and just when I thought I was done, its back again. Today we did have the companion so on 2 hours of sleep I managed to take a shower, doing grocery shopping and clean a little on my side of the house. Would love to get the companion service more often, however they are expensive and I can only afford the 8 hours a week. On a posistive note we did have the geratric assesment team in on Friday (after she refused for months). The only problem is that she has to go in to see their Doctor for an evaulation on the 30th of March (getting her out of the house to a Doctors is always a challenge). She has been having increased pain in her right leg (they had previously done an ultrasound for blood clots and came back negative). So need to lift her, take her to the bathroom etc......any suggestions on that....I work from home about 60 hours a week. My day typically starts @ 6:30 and doesn't end til at least 1 or 2. Showers can only be taken when the companion is here since I can't leave her for more than 15-20 minutes at a time to go to my side of the house. Well I guess enough complaining for now!!!! Some days I just need to vent more........

good to see you back jmw0913

was thinking maybe you should get a new comfortable couch.. since you spend so much time on it also I don't remember if we have had the conversation about bringing in some volunteers to help... there wouldn't be a problem especially since you work in the house... and they could free you up with time to run errands etc... keep us posted...
take care

gail

Gail, thanks for the response. I have been reading some of your posts as well and hope everything continues to go well w/ your Mom. Congratulations on the upcoming vacation....hope you have a wonderful time!!!! From all you do including this site it seems like you definately deserve one
You did provide me with a web-link to some volunteer groups in my area. However, I must have written the link down incorrect, because it is not coming up. I live in Hatboro PA zip of 19040. I think you gave me a site for Doylestown PA. Another bad nite here. My Mother went to sleep around 1:30 (she was nervous again) and before I finally feel asleep on the horrible couch it was 3:00. She was up @ 5:00 to go to the bathroom then she wanted to stay up and eat. Since I work from home I don't have the ability to take naps as she does during the day. I am just exhausted, heart racing, shakes, angry.......I need to calm down, but I don't know how.......day begins to early & ends to late....how do people do this?????

Well so far my 2 posts were nothing but complaints.........however.......I actually had a good day as exhausted as I am. I called the companion service to schedule times for April and I was talking to the girl there about my week and she said well we do offer respite weekends at $185.00 a day for 24 hour care......(keep in mind the hourly service in $20.50)....so I thought $185.00 thats not bad......SOLD!!!! So I ordered a NEW companion from Thursday at 9:00 am til Monday at 9 am......a under $800.00 (not too bad) to be able to sleep 8 hours straight, watch TV, take a shower for 4 day in a row, go to the grocery store whenever I want, get my hair cut, see some friends and maybe even go out to dinner. I think if this works (fingers crossed a lot) and I can still afford it I will do this once a month. I am beaming w/ glee at the thought of sleeping in my own bed without interuption!!!! Then to top it all of I received a certified letter in the mail today....my daughter received a $6,400.00 scholarship for college. And better yet, my Mother's leg is feeling a little better, so she is not moaning all day long!!! Very exciting!!!

Hello jmw0913

my gosh, I just wrote a whole post and didn't hit the submit properly and lost it so I am going for it again... here are the Faith In Action programs... I know you have help but if it is tight for your budget you might want to consider some of these options:

Haddonfield, New Jersey
Interfaith Caregivers of Haddonfield, Inc.
P.O. Box 186
Haddonfield, NJ 08033-0144
Contact: Norie Wisniewski
Phone: (856) 354-0298
Fax: (856) 354-6176
Serves: Frail/Elderly; Physically Disabled; Developmentally Disabled; Terminally Ill; Alzheimers/Dementia
Hours: Call for Information
Services: Transportation; Respite Care; Friendly Visit; Telephone Reassurance; Meal Preparation; Chores; Bill Paying; Link People
Service Area: Camden

Trenton, New Jersey
Interfaith Caregivers Trenton/Faith in Action
207 Hillcrest Avenue
Trenton, NJ 08618
Contact: Dale McCants
Phone: (609) 393-9922
Fax: (609) 393-9955
Email: info@InterfaithCaregiversTrenton.org
Web site: www.InterfaithCaregiversTrenton.org
Serves: Frail/Elderly; Physically Disabled; Developmentally Disabled; Terminally Ill; Alzheimers/Dementia
Hours: M-F 8:30 am - 4 pm
Services: Transportation; Respite Care; Friendly Visit; Telephone Reassurance; Housekeeping; Meal Preparation; Chores; Bill Paying; Link People
Service Area: Greater Trenton, Burlington City, West Windsor, Hightstown & Bucks County.

Mobile Meals of Trenton
546 Bellevue Ave.
Trenton, NJ 08618
Contact: Barbara Smith
Phone: (609) 695-3483
Fax: (609) 393-7725
Serves: Frail/Elderly; HIV/AIDS Related; Physically Disabled; Developmentally Disabled; Terminally Ill; Mentally Ill; Alzheimers/Dementia
Hours: Call for Information
Service Area: Mercer

Bala Cynwyd, Pennsylvania
Wissahickon Hospice Volunteers
1 Presidential Blvd. #125
Bala Cynwyd, PA 19004-1007
Contact: Rita Reed
Phone: (610) 617-2400
Fax: (610) 617-2409
Email: ritajean.reed@uphs.upenn.edu
Serves: Frail/Elderly; HIV/AIDS Related; Physically Disabled; Developmentally Disabled; Terminally Ill; Mentally Ill; Alzheimers/Dementia
Hours: Call for Information
Services: Transportation; Respite Care; Friendly Visit; Telephone Reassurance; Housekeeping; Meal Preparation; Chores; Bill Paying; Link People
Service Area: Delaware, Montgomery,Chester, Bu cks, Philadelphia

Doylestown, Pennsylvania
Bucks County Intermediate Unit
705 Shady Retreat Rd.
Doylestown, PA 18901
Contact: Charles Miller
Phone: (800) 770-4822
Fax: (215) 340-1964
Email: cmiller@mv.org
Serves: Children; Physically Disabled; Developmentally Disabled
Hours: Call for Information
Services: Transportation; Respite Care; Friendly Visit; Telephone Reassurance; Link People
Service Area: Bucks

Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
Common Bond Caregivers
8015 Frankford Ave.
Philadelphia, PA 19136-2736
Contact: Judy Dietrich
Phone: (215) 725-5001
Fax: (215) 338-4426
Serves: Frail/Elderly; Physically Disabled; Developmentally Disabled; Terminally Ill; Mentally Ill; Alzheimers/Dementia
Hours: M-F 8 am - 5 pm
Services: Transportation; Respite Care; Friendly Visit; Telephone Reassurance; Meal Preparation; Chores; Link People
Service Area: Philadelphia, Montgomery & Bucks

Faith in Action Outreach Program of Little Brothers
642 North Broad Street, Lobby Level
Philadelphia, PA 19130-3424
Contact: Gingie Pope
Phone: (215) 765-8118
Fax: (215) 765-8116
Email: gpope.phi@littlebrothers.org

Family Friends
USB 206, 1601 North Broad Street
Philadelphia, PA 19122
Contact: Nancy Hale Sills
Phone: (215) 204-3193
Fax: (215) 204-3195
Serves: Children; HIV/AIDS Related; Physically Disabled; Developmentally Disabled; Terminally Ill; Mentally Ill
Hours: M-F 9 am - 5 pm
Services: Respite Care; Friendly Visit; Telephone Reassurance; Link People
Service Area: Philadelphia

Neighbor to Neighbor Project
6757 Greene Street
Philadelphia, PA 19119
Contact: Don Carlin
Phone: (215) 843-5600
Fax: (215) 843-2755
Email: madesir@dca.net
Web site: www.nim-phila.org
Serves: Frail/Elderly; Physically Disabled; Developmentally Disabled; Terminally Ill; Mentally Ill; Alzheimers/Dementia
Hours: M-F 9 am - 5 pm
Services: Friendly Visit; Link People
Service Area: West and Northwest Philly

Wyndmoor, Pennsylvania
Faith in Action Program of Keystone Hospice
8765 Stenton Avenue
Wyndmoor, PA 19038-8317
Contact: Kathy Corbett
Phone: (215) 836-2440
Fax: (215) 836-2448
Email: Kcorbett@keystonecare.com
Serves: Frail/Elderly; HIV/AIDS Related; Physically Disabled; Terminally Ill; Alzheimers/Dementia
Hours: Call for Information
Services: Respite Care; Friendly Visit; Telephone Reassurance; Housekeeping; Chores; Link People

Bux-mont Meals on Wheels
Address: 414 South York Road, Hatboro, PA 19040-4799
Phone: 215-443-9784
Services:
Founded in in 1977, Bux-Mont Meals on Wheels provides nutritious, low-cost , hot meals to those who are unable to cook for themselves. During the past year, the organization provided 18,857 meals to 99 clients from its base at the kitchens of the Warminster Hospital. Bux-Mont serves deserving persons in Hatboro and adjoining parts of Warminster, Horsham and Upper Moreland Townships. Packaging and delivery of meals is performed by volunteers.

To inquire about Meals on Wheels services or to volunteer to help:
Contact: Marge Lethbridge, Meals on Wheels Coordinator, at 215-443-9784.
Website: www.buxmontmealsonwheels.com

Hatboro Senior Citizens Organization
Address: Ye-Old Fire House, York Road, Hatboro, PA19040
Phone:
Contact: Ray Evans

Youngsters of Yesteryear
Address: 150 East Montgomery Avenue, Hatboro, PA19040
Phone: 215-675-7137
Contact:Ralph Stephany


Twilight Wish Foundation
"Celebrating our seniors and making dreams and wishes come true."
The mission of Twilight Wish Foundation is to enrich the lives of elders that have served others by bringing them smiles and joy. Our mission will remain unchanged as the company expands, as we hope to offer more to all of those who lovingly gave themselves to make us who we are today; our moms, dads, grandparents, aunts, uncles, teachers, crossing guards, librarians, neighbors and friends.
Address: PO Box 1042, Doylestown, PA 18901
Contact: Cass Forkin Tommassello, Founder & Executive Director
Phone: 215-345-5009 Toll Free: 800-TWF-WISH
Cell Phone: 215-534-0402
Fax: 215-340-9824
E-mail: Cassie@TwilightWishFoundation.org
Website: www.TwilightWishFoundation.org

Also, there is an agency in Brooklyn, New York that has companions and will send to your area.. they must be long term as they sleep in 24/7 and work for about half of what you are paying but it must be steady..

congratulations on your daughters scholarship and so pleased to hear your mom's feeling better..

let me know how you make out.

blessings
gail
PS sleep well....