Donna, believe it or not, you really are getting somewhere. You are making every effort humanly possible and you haven't given up trying. It's only when a person gives up that they get no where. You are posting on the boards, reaching out and asking for advice. That's getting somewhere.
There are so many days when I just want to give up and crawl back into bed and forget the whole world exists. Sometimes the responsibilities of working, taking care of my mom, working with hospice, taking care of my home, etc., all overwhelms me and I just ask myself, "What's the use?" That darned hampster wheel just seems never to stop turning. Unless...
I jump off and actually try to go somewhere with whatever resources I have available. Some days, I take a mental break and say, "The heck with the housework, it'll still be there." I'll pull a Scarlett O'Hara! Then, I draw, or cross-stitch, or play around on the computer, or get out my camera and just start snapping pictures of the outdoors.
I know and totally understand that you have so much to do; phone calls to make, coordinating to do, etc. But, please, try to pull a "Scarlett" for at least 1 day and rejuvinate. You need it and deserve it!