I applaud you for standing your ground and taking care of business. TCB.
I'm so tired right now since it's almost midnight but I'll tell you one thing before I head for bed. You did the right thing. Taking care of yourself is the number one priority. Being a caregiver comes second. Everyone else can take a flying leap if they don't have the guts to hang in there and do what's right.
I'm pretty much done with my brother. Although I still love him, love isn't enough. I'm not calling him when the time comes for me to notify. If they couldn't be around when I needed them, then phooey with them. Let them deal with the tough questions later on. I'll go to bed at night and sleep soundly, knowing I did all I could to make my parents journey from this world as comfortable as possible. It will be done.
God bless you Glenda. Don't forget to take care of you, too.