I am so glad to hear that from you. It's that old-man-time that makes us come to the correct resolutions. You have your own family and yourself. No matter what you do now is not going to stop the future from happening. You can't cause it or prevent it.
Your family has made decisions that seem to fluctuate according to our past conversations. With that said, I honestly do not think things will stay the way they are. If so, you remember, as do I, all that you have done for your father. I can see that in your Spotlight picture. All that you have sacrificed. You have earned your wings.