You are a sweetie and very thoughtful. Actually, I have been seeing a therapist for the past 3 weeks. When things started getting bad between my mom and husband and my husband threatened divorce, I was able to convince him that I would be better talking to someone about all of this. My insurance covers 30 sessions a year, so hopefully that will be enough! ; )
At this point, my husband is getting so irritable regarding anything that comes up with my mom, it's hard to deal with. It's also the same with my mom.
My mother does not want to take any of my husband's "deals" that ultimately lower or keep her rent the same without any increase, so she has chosen to move out. That is probably best because she should be able to get a one bedroom apt. for less money. I hope she goes that way and doesn't try to buy a condo. She has been talking about this and I don't think that would be smart.
I am talking to her daily, but it is small talk. We are not talking about her moving or anything. Her lease is not up until July. My husband will have to show the place to prospective renters, but not for a couple of weeks.
I know that anytime I bring up anything about moving, she is going to get defensive and mad at me.
It is almost impossible to stay out of the middle. I'm grateful to have you folks as a sounding board though. Thank you!!!