Mimi, I know this post is pretty old, but I just want to say that I think it is so wonderful that you are there for your mom, take her out to dinner, etc. It sounds like your mom is pretty special in that she seems to have an unusual understanding of her own condition and I believe that is quite rare. I don't know about the staring thing, except that people can be jerks. Please, please don't let it make you uncomfortable; it's definitely their problem, not yours. Take care.