Thanks Jane for the reply. It's a little different. My father has a POA with 3 siblings (me an 2 brothers) to excercise jointly all healthcare decisions. Not me as primary, and successor agents or even alternate 1 and 2 after the primary. If even one resigns --- I believe the POA is void. My brothers have let me know they don't want to be involved. I can't tell my Dad this and hurt him. If the POA is voided upon his becoming incapacitated - then the Probate Court will handle his decisions. I have tried to talk to him about this, and first of all he doesn't deal with anything to do with life or death ---- not even the death of my Mom. He dumped it all on me. His sons, especially one doesn't even think of him as his father --- Dad hasn't known this all his life. It's too big a burden for me to carry. And, then this is the 3rd time my life and even my marriage which is now back and my spouse is my rock - well, the 3rd time a loved one's POA and will has messed up my life. I am getting an appt. with Dad's atty. to try to get some insight on all this. And, hopefully she can help in some way. My father has never been there for his children emotionally or even been to there homes, mine none at all - so my brothers are very unforgiving. I'm doing all the Dr.'s with him, and most of the talking but now one Dr. wants a POA and Dad doesn't want to get involved. He is having a stress test this Weds. and more Dr.'s will be asking for a POA as he won't deal with anything, and is fully mentally capable of doing so. He has been this way all his life - and very bright --- but physically declining with PD. I want to do what I can to help --- but it is like I'm shooting in the dark! Thanks for your input - but when you have men that want deal with death or life illnesses either ---- it's not easy. Dad wouldn't even acknowledge his brother who had cancer's death. Crazy stuff. One Dr. told me I should get a social worker who will be available should he go into the hospital to talk with him, and maybe even a psychiatrist. He was referred to a psychiatrist --- but quit - says he doesn't want to deal with the past or anyone in the past. Got me in another mess! But with the grace of God ---- I'll climb out of it!
God Bless You and thanks again!