i absolutely love your "after me, you come first" saying because it is so true and yet easily forgotten.
And having the background is helpful, but it's a horse of a different color when you are dealing with a family member! I Think my biggest frustration is dealing with the home health professionals. Since I do have a good background, what I've stressed to them is I really need help with bathing because that's not something I know how to do. After almost 3 weeks, I still have not had somebody show me how to bathe someone. If anyone has any tips, I'd appreciate them. Or if it's more of a "learn as you go & wing it "style, that's fine too. I just feel like maybe I'm missing something that I should know before I go ahead and try to bathe my grandmother.