Hi Mimi of 4:
You know, I think a duplex is an ideal living situation. I think it would be super for both you and your mother too. You know how it is with two many chefs in one kitchen, I am sure. It could be a happy solution and you each have your OWN kitchen, etc, your OWN life, etc, etc.
I have a dream about building a small "space" on our wild green acre here just for me. I have even thought about a tent in the summertime just to get my own space. I moved out of a beautiful home in Tum Tum, WA back into the family home into an 8x10 bedroom (I call it my bed "womb" because it is so small). It was the only bedwomb I was comfortable in and up AWAY from everything. It has no past childhood memories for me to deal with. Plus, it has the only view of our dead-end road from which trouble arises on occasion in the form of abandoned stolen vehicles and such.
I think you have some good things going on in your life and I am so hopeful for you. Your daughter is coming around again. You are making changes... and I have a saying in life. I always say: "Things change! That's the beauty of life!" and I believe it! You are doing a wonderful thing looking after your parents. And be good to yourself too. You deserve it!! Look ahead! Embrace change!
Love and Laughter for YOU from Glenda