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Kay,
I just read your latest post and I just had to respond. When my mom moved in, I sent an email to all her grandchildren (7)letting them know that grandma is now settled in and suggested that they call her each just once a week. I explained to them that she is home all day and would love to hear from them. I invited all of them to come visit and spend some time in our home, or take her out to lunch or dinner. Of the 7, two call...it's been 8 months. I made myself sick wondering why....how difficult is it to pick up a phone? How busy can they be that they can't call from their cell when they are running errands or coming home from work? I have two sisters and they are not much better. I come to realize that they've just written her off. Since she has lost her short term memory, they must figure what's the point? She'll just forget...well, I don't see things that way, I guess I think of "in the moment"...I try to do things to make her happy and smile so she feels that experience "in the moment"...I know it will be gone two minutes from now, but right now, she's happy. I will never understand how others think, but I'm spending less time dwelling on it...just one more thing that I cannot change.
Like you, I treasure my time with my grandson, who turned 3 today. Unfortunately, we live six hours (by car) apart, but I have an awesome daughter in law that comes in every few months and spends a long weekend with us so we can see him and he continues to know his "Nana and Papa".
As far as writing emails to my sisters...been that route too...all I hear is how depressed they are for the situation...yes, they are depressed...no real feelings of empathy or compassion, so I've given up writing to them and come here. Here you will find many that truly understand what you are feeling and going through...warmest wishes, Mimi
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