Thank you for your thoughts. Vicky, it is interesting to me that your mother hasn't shown any signs of the cancer. I have had two friends now tell me that after a lumpectomy, it took them 10 years for their cancer to return, although when I asked the cancer nurse how long was average, she wouldn't give me a straight answer. I am now thinking that perhaps the least invasive thing is the best for my mother. Maybe complete mastectomys are for younger people who should expect to live many more years. Mimi, I think I will call the Alz Assoc. today and see if I can talk to someone. You are so right that the way of looking at this has to be so completely different for an older person and one who has AD than a young woman and I am not sure the cancer professionals get that.
Does anyone know if the radiation treatments are optional? When they said she would "have to have them," it didn't occur to me that we could say no. When you get into this, it is easy to forget that we can make our own decisions. The medical people are so adamant about everything. Mom's first opinion was that she didn't want to do anything, at least unless it began bothering her, but the nurse said that isn't an option, because it would become a wound that would break through the skin. The lump is about the size of a golf ball, so I guess it must be removed.
Seems like I am as bad as my mom, that I change my mind about what is best from minute to mine.