Oh gosh, if it were any other kind of cancer than breast cancer - what would you say? I would try to think of it that way. There is something so emotional about breast cancer in women (and for good reason)... If it were another type of cancer that could be removed, it would be different, but still the same end result. The cancer would be gone and neither your nor your mother would suffer from the growth of cancer throughout her body over time. What does the doctor say I wonder?
I think we all understand how people react when someone is older... Oh, it's their time to go anyway or they dismiss it by saying oh, they've have had a long life so it's no big deal. HA! I have often wondered if that is the same reaction that they have when it is their own parent or loved one? I hope my tone isn't too ballistic today... Been a rough weekend for me and I am exhausted tonight. But, Bridget, the minute I saw your posting I knew you needed a lot of support and some advice on this subject.
There is nothing wrong with giving your mother the surgery she needs to survive cancer. When my dad was in the hospital after a TIA and they found colon cancer at 87 years-old, there was no question that he would get the operation. (I am sure the doctors might have been motivated by the money aspect of the operation however - not lol) Then, when they sent dad home on hospice, I asked him one question and that was: "Do you want to die?" and, even though that TIA was a bad one, he said emphatically NO!
So, I guess that what I am saying here is, even though your mother is suffering from AD and old age, what do you think she would want. We are our parents advocates... I am so sorry you are going through this dear heart. Just know that we are here for you and that you and your beloved mother are surely in my thoughts and prayers tonight...
Love and Hugs from Glenda
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