When I first read your post, I couldn't even think how to respond. I really admire that you would step up at this time after the way your family has treated you.
Getting ducks in a row. I had a boss one time who's motto was to be like a duck... calm on the surface, but paddling like mad underneath. That's the image I get when I think of your situation. At that time I was an inverted duck - flailing around, not getting much done... like Donald Duck... having a "duck fit." Okay, enough imagery for now.
Take care, dear Angel. We're here for you.
Love n hugs,