Hello dear Glenda,
Thank you for your response. Yes, for sure I will be taking care of me first, what is best for me. I have learned some very hard lessons these last few years. One being to protect me at all times. I have now accepted who my mother is, and will continue to love her as my mother. The sibling situation, another story, they made my decision for me.
I will do what I can for my mother until I go, my siblings will continue to not do for her, and when I do leave to pursue my dream, I will be going with her blessing.