I do understand the wanting only her daughters to help. I had a lady come help me once a week for a few months. My mom would not do a thing while I was gone not eat not ask to go to the bathroom nothing. She just sat in her chair with her eyes closed the whole time. Some times now when I try to help her I have to let her know I am her daughter in order for her not to put up a fight. I truly do not know which is worse having a healthy body and no mind or unhealthy body and a sharp mind. Coming to the end of our time is just hard no matter how you slice it. I�ve seen all sides and no one way is better than the other. Except when they are in pain and that is why we have hospice thank God. You just take it day to day and so do they. We have it hard but they have it harder they know the end is near and they want to be close to you. Every day when I get mom up I will say �God has blessed us with another day together.� It helps me and it help her and set�s the tone for the day ahead. When I put her to bed I tell her I love her and if the good Lord is willing tomorrow we will be blessed with another day together. Be blessed with another tomorrow.