I noticed this is an old post, but I have not been to church in at least a year if not more. The same thing as others noted, my pastor doesn't really seem to care and my so called friends were always telling me to let them know if I needed anything and of course when I did it was "why don't you ask so and so", so I got tired of that. I have also helped a lot of the same people through rough times in their life and they really can't be bothered. If one friend took me to the hospital when I had cancer she always told the church secy and it didn't dawn on me until a few years later was that she always needed to pat on the back that she helped me. I always did it because I wanted to help someone if I could and always tried before I was asked. I do have a few friends left and I no longer volunteer at church.
I am going to start looking for a new church because I am not doing a service to my children by not attending.