My gram (82) is in a similar position. She is confined to her chair day and night. She has become my psydo-secretary. She is in charge of remembering birthdays, Dr's appts, keeping track of grocery list (every time I notice something we have run out of--I shout for gram to put it on the list). She gives me a list every week or so with all the things we need. She also keeps track of my schedule and reminds me which days I need to be at work and at what times. Although these are all things that I could handle on my own, it is a great relief to not have to keep track of little things like birthday cards and toilet paper! Gram is the best!