quote:Many of us have similar issues surrounding our siblings....share your experiences so that others may learn, heal and grow. What are your experiences? [/B]
I basically wrote my brother off about 6 years ago, as I was no longer able to tolerate his behavior (or lack of it). You can choose your friends but not your family and I reached a point where I knew I would not tolerate actions like his from a friend, so why should I tolerate them from a family member. The decision at least stopped me from being angry, upset and hurt.
I called him a month ago to take Mom shopping because I could not...she had called my son a thief and I knew I could not go near her. The result was that Mom accused him and his wife of stealing from her and said they planned to kidnap her and take the money from the home care insurance plan for taking care of her. He washed his hands (not the first time) and I stepped in again. Mom cancelled the policy.
Bottom line is that the only way I can maintain my sanity with regard to my brother is to stay at a distance. It's a shame...but again, you cannot choose your family and I know I am not alone.
Good luck with whatever decision you make for your own sanity!