I guess like Gail says, there's usually one child that assumes the responsibility of caring for their parents. If you have read the previous posts, you know that I have a brother who has not bothered to call and inquire how his mother is. He has no earthly idea that she is now in a nursing home, & I truly believe that he does not care nor does he want to know! Placing Mom in a nursing home was the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life. I go and see her every day, and even if she's asleep when I go, I see her and kiss her and I see for myself that she's all right and I can come home feeling at peace. I have pretty much realized that he will never be around especially when Mom passes away, so like you, I feel like I am an only child. I will always be there for my Mom, and know that I did everything I possibly could for her, and God knows that, and I can live with myself knowing that. Keep in touch. If you ever need to talk, you can e-mail me directly at RTVEL38AB@WEBTV.NET.