Your story is of such great value to other caregivers who are in similar situations with their siblings. I am grateful for your post....perhaps we can create a chat or listserv for siblings of main caregivers a little bit down the road.
The growth you have experienced, the forgiveness and love you now have for your sister is so powerful...I know your sharing will help many. Hopefully your post will start an ongoing thread that others might respond to as well.
I was wondering if you would be able to find another nursing home that would benefit your mother more at this time.....one that the courts might approve of.
Blessings to you.