I'm new to this site and when I read your letter it really hit home. I care for both my parents and have a sibling that lives out of state and does not participate except to offer suggestions on how I could do things better. While I accepted my role several years back, I do admit the ongoing care is draining me. I just didn't have energy to carry the anger against my sister any longer and decided to minimize my contact with her. I know this was the right decision for me. Given the energy it takes to provide the support and care needed by our parents, we need all of our resources to do our best for them and ourselves.