My mother, for several years before she passed away, had serious financial issues. Honestly, she was never very disciplined about money, although bless her heart, she spent most of it on other people. By the time I realized she was in way over her head, it was too late and she had to file bankruptcy (or I did for her because the Alz). After that, I controlled all of her finances, keeping a small life insurance policy to cover her funeral and burial. My husband and I discovered after her death that she had had a more sizeable policy, but had borrowed from it twice, so it was no longer in effect. I wasn't upset over that, it was her money and her decision. However, there were some savings bonds bought for our daughter when she was a baby. Mom kept them and they were for her education. We have become convinced that my mother cashed them in. We were only able to find one bond and it had my name on it, as well as my daughter's. I am assuming the only reason she didn't cash that one in too is that she couldn't. I am quite upset over this. I am considering somehow calling the U.S. government to find out if this is truly what happened or not. Not sure how much trouble that would be or if they would even tell me anything. My husband says to just let it go, that what is done is done, and what would finding out for sure help anyway. I suppose he is right, but I feel like I need to know. Cleaning out your own life insurance is one thing, but cashing in savings bonds that were meant for someone else is, I feel, dishonest, and I am having a hard time relating to this.
Does anyone else have any experiences about finding out about serious flaws after a parent has passed away? I just needed to vent, I guess. I don't ever want to tell my daughter about this, or anyone else either. I don't want to ruin Mom's memory.